what is love?
i know this is a stupid question to ask and might be boring topic to discuss....but go through this completely...it might help in someway or other
try this....
you are having a conversation with your good friend..come up with a question like "what is love?" and expect a reaction of kind "wtf is wrong with him
today?","is he drunk?","finally he has fallen in love...the inevitable thing"
.well,if ur asking the same question to a close good friend who is of opposite sex,then be assured of hundreds of thoughts racing in the mind of the person
who has to answer...
# "what now?..as he fallen in love with me?"--> A suprised and shocked girl who think they are both "just friends"
# "Finally..." ------------------------------->The girl who has already fallen in love with that boy.# "what?again?"----->If both boy and girl decided to stay as "friends" after their breakup.
# "free food,free movie,free shopping from next week..yuppie"----->The girl who falls for any boy who has cash
# "please No.. please No"--->the girl who is afraid of loosing her friendship
# "now this guy also?"--->the girls with previous bad experiences with "friends"
# "..."------------------->totally confused blanked out girl...
# "flying sensations,rainbows...."---->goes into totally romantic mood when they hear the word "Love".."Fairyland girls" i call them.
# "No No..love and all is not for me.."--->girls who are afraid of parents and society(but wants to fall in love) or who think falling in love is some sort
of worst crime .
Well if ur a girl asking the same question to a boy,then there would be only one thought running through the mind of almost 97% of the boys.
"yuppie"
ok back to topic....
After this initial period of discomfort is over and if both of u have survived through it press ur friend to answer the question after assuring him/her again
"i just want to know ur opinion..thats it...nothing more".
with their eyes turned up and with their hands on their chin ,they have put their minds into work..After 5 minutes ,u can expect few answers like "hmmm dunno","maybe caring for each other,understanding".
ok..what is it?
# is it caring for each other?
# is it affection?
# is the goodwill u bear towrds the other person?# is it a feeling which makes u happy from ?
# is it all the sacrifice u undergo through to see other person happy?
# is it the understanding and sharing of feelings with the person?
# or is it the combination of all the above?
Few forms of love
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#Mother Love---This is one of the purest forms of love which is close to "perfect love" but still not "perfect".coz i feel that this "unconditional love" towrds her offspring is implied by nature on the mother (or instinctive).where have u heard a bad mother??(leaving exceptionally rare cases)..It is love which is not based upon what the child does,how he behaves,how he looks and
is ever ready to forgive..Imagine how unforgivable the world would be if nature woudnt have provided mother with such a sort of love towards her
offspring...Then we are judged according to our mistakes,actions,words 24/7 and we would need to be Angels to get loved!!!..so thank that god who has created
mothers has his ...go go go "Mommy"
#Father Love----I feel that father love is more based on reasoning...It to certain extent depends on ur action,what u do and how u are...No father would
hesitate to kick out his bad son/bad daughter...A bit less forgiving than mother and needs longer time...A good father who love his kids would make sure his
child has all the necessary physical nesecities to please the child,make him happy and to be succesful.go go go "dad"
#Brother/Sister Love----Ok...i know i should be the last person to be writing this but an good brother/sister relationshp should be of
affection,caring,security,fight and play....
#F.R.I.E.N.D.S And Lovers---Ok..here is were the real training begins....True friends are very rare..Thats what i feel...u can argue with me "No No..its not
true..me and my friend xyz has been together so long...we never fought..we understand and all"....believe me....u cant find it out until a thing or a
situation comes up from no where and soon the two best friends are begining to have differences and ego problems even thoguh they were good friends from last trillion years....
we love our friends and our lifepartner...but for wat?
#is it coz he is caring? Is it the same love u had before for him if he stops caring or starts caring for someone more?
#is it coz u feel comfortable sharing ur thoughts and trustworthy? Is it the same love as before after he loses his trust?
#is it coz u share common ideas,have common ideals and common interests?? would u still spend all ur time with him when all his intersts and ideals changed
next day?
#is it coz u feel sm1 special with him? what if he started giving his "special attention" to someone from nextday?..would u be the same to him?
#is it coz of his looks/smile/money/charming? is it the same way u feel abt him if next he has become like 90+ years old grandfather/grandmother??
#is it bcoz he make u laugh?? 10 days if the same person is all serious serious,im sure it would have bored other person to death.
#is it coz he is of good character? is it same love if next day u relaize he is not what u thought he was?
#how many times can u forgive him for his mistakes??
#is it coz he makes u happy whenevr he is around?
#is it coz ur lonely?
The point is i feel that Love is above all these things..........we made love as fish market..give and take policy..
between if u had asked me the same question my answer would be "Love is caring,affection,goodwill towards even the person u know that he hates u and means
harm to u and countless sacrifices ur willing to go through to see him better and happy"
ok..only talk,No action....i know and i have an idea and realization of how perfect love should be but there is lots of difference between realization and putting
into action what u hv realized....they say u cant give up old habits easily eventhough u know they harm u....well what do u expect...afterall ,im just a human who is writing this post under the pen name "Angel"(Wannabe u can call)....cya..i want to sleep now..already 2:25 in night...
